Hands up who worries? Do you even find yourself worrying that you haven’t got something to worry about? It’s a habit that doesn’t bode well for stress levels, and as a mum to an impressionable 6 year old, I’m trying not to pass on my worry gene to her.
Keeping active and in control seems to be the key to not worrying, distracting yourself from the problem in question. Sure, big worries that seem insurmountable sometimes are unavoidable and for that, different support is needed.
However, small everyday worries are so pointless it drives me mad. I’m an extremely honest over-thinker and someone who wears my heart on my sleeve. Maybe this isn’t always a good thing, but it’s me through and through.
Worry leads to doubt sometimes, which in turn is good to channel into determination instead. And not looking too far ahead (as tempting as it is) can nip some stresses in the bud. I’ve worried in the past about stuff that hasn’t ever materialised. What a waste of time and energy that is!
There seems a lot more pressure on L at 6 than I felt at that age, and even more attention paid to looks and body image. This is a whole other blog post, yet I’m trying to focus her mind on achievements and activities, strength of personality and all those things. Surely, this is the first lesson of being a warrior through life?
Owning your insecurities is the best thing you can do- if you embrace what trips you up, you can tackle it better. Talking about stuff helps too, meaning you normalise any issues, as you can bet other people face them too. Then in turn, you can accept how amazing you are and take the reigns in life. Worries and all. Just don’t let them consume you.
Here’s a few tips I’ve learnt about being a warrior, not a worrier (I’ll never get tired of that phrase..!):
- Do something that makes you happy, no matter how big or small, to distract yourself. Chances are you will have forgotten the worry in this time.
- Block the worry out and shut that door in your mind, you don’t need to come back to it.
- Break the problem down, so you’re not worrying about so much all at once.
- Attack the issue in small chunks, then you will have both achieved something and re-gained control.
- Accept that some worries are out of your hands and/or they are not your responsibility.