My favourite Christmas present was this Tiffany & Co. pendant from the Mr. Obviously, the H is my initial, but I’m also seeing it as a daily reminder to strive for happiness.
Here’s three ways I try to improve my happiness levels, little things which I think make a big difference…
- Take a technology detox
I try to have one technology-free day a week, mainly on a Sunday. It’s amazing how much anxiety can build up over being constantly available. Lacking concentration towards the task in hand is usually because I’m trying to do too much, and living life circa the-time-before-technology is totally liberating.
Also, my mobile has a bedtime; 8pm and no later. I make the physical move of putting it in a drawer or just leaving it downstairs. By walking away from texts, tweets and any information overload, it’s amazing how much easier it is to relax. My rule is no mobiles in the bedroom, enforcing a calmer environment. General screen-time isn’t great in the couple of hours before bed, as it means your mind races and remains more active. There’s a lot of research out there about this, and this article by Hypnotherapist Chloe Brotheridge is particularly helpful-Insomnia Checklist.
- Remove the toxins
And by this I mean, in your diet and your life. I’ve spoken before about nutritional changes I made in 2015, with a big increase in my fruit and veg intake and trying to cut out as much gluten, dairy and processed foods as possible. My eating plan is based on a book called The Wahl’s Protocol by Dr Terry Wahls, due to personal health reasons, but I can’t begin to tell you how much my energy has improved since making these alterations.
Now, onto the life bit. I like to describe people as hoovers or radiators (bear with me). They either warm you or drain you. This can just be an observation for people who pass through your life of which you have no control over, but in terms of friendships, it is a make or break distinction. Whether it’s becoming a mum or getting older, but I have no time left for negativity. I’ve spent years trying to bear with friends or acquaintances who have made me feel rubbish, and in all honesty they won’t have been getting the best version of me either. So I’m moving forward with 2016 and continuing this mantra, being fiercely loyal to those who are the same to me. Those who don’t mirror my efforts aren’t getting my energy.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff
Ok this is much easier said than done, and I for one am guilty of stressing about almost everything. But, I’m making a conscious effort to stop it, right now! I find a couple of mantras helpful for this one. Firstly, as my Mum says; “do you need to worry about that today?”. So, if something is far off and I’m already panicking, I can put it to bed and tackle another time.
Secondly, a friend of ours uses this one; “On a scale of 0-10, how much will you remember this problem, or will it matter in a year’s time?” We’ve had a drip in the roof from all the rain, and our bath tap is completely knackered. Both extremely irritating problems, however, taking a step back to breathe and care less has helped me so far.
I’m still working on ways to make life easier, calmer, and as a result, happier, but these tips definitely help. And failing all that, an enormous cup of coffee and a deep breath always works too…